Keep trying.. or can you make plans to move out? I lost "stuff" and money moving away from XABF but it has been one of the best decisions in my life. I know its not easy and I don't know the logistics but when I broke up with XABF, I was in a new city and knew no one and had nothing and I was able to get a place away from him. I just made the decision and remembered I deserved peaceful nights.
I am glad you are going to counseling. Worrying about someone's whereabouts is something I leave to moms of teenagers now. Responsible adults know if someone needs to be informed about their whereabouts and act accordingly. If he gets fired due to alcohol its just a consequence of his actions.