Sober alcoholics are generally what you find at a meeting, not real sobriety for yourself. That is found outside the meetings, working one on one with a good sponsor, on adopting the 12 steps as a way of life. In the context of ordinary meetings, I took none of the steps in that setting, instead all steps were taken with my spnsor.
You see what I'm saying? Your difficulty getting to meetings will not stop you getting sober unless you let it. What will help you is to sit down one to one with a recovered alcoholic from AA and find out the real nature of your problem. Once you have done that you will be in a better position to know what activities need to have priority.