Loving detachment; help me out here
I've heard this saying thrown around the rooms of Al Anon many times but I still don't get it. Detaching with love? I just don't understand how to apply it. Right now, I feel like I'm walking around with an angry chip on my shoulder because of his relapse this past weekend and I have no idea how to be 'loving' or compassionate. It doesn't make any sense. My trust has been broken, my heart is grieving, and yet I am sitting here contemplating detaching with love? What gives?
Right now, I feel like we're roommates because I've 'detached' to the point where I don't even want to be touched by him anymore. I just don't understand how we can love and give of ourselves when all they do is take and then say that we are detaching with love. Am I mistaken here? What am I missing?