For this alcoholic, one or two meetings every other month would be like a diabetic taking insulin only when I feel bad or getting an oil change done only whe my car sputters.. I know when I'm not going to meetings or working on the steps, it leaves a wide open door for unhealthy things to seep in. Resentment and obsessive thinking are just a couple. I have to take a look at myself and work on MY inventory instead of taking other people's. Usually, things I may not like in other people remind me of myself.. past or present. Sounds like this may be what he is doing. Good for you for not cosigning his nonsense. Keep up the good work and hang in there.