HI frustrated...I would listen to Paulie! She knows of what she speaks... I would have to agree with everyone else, as well. You agreed to loan her the money for the car assuming she had quit using and was willing and CAPABLE of dealing with the responsibility that goes along with that - which includes NOT drinking if you are an alchoholic. I know it seems like a tough decision, but is it really? If it weren't your daughter and a active alchoholic wanted you to loan them money for a car, would you? I don't know - sometimes it helps me if I take myself and my personal feelings out of the picture (easier said than done) and try to figure out how someone else would handle it. Good luck!