I wish I had a plan. What do we do when they say, "What do you want from me? I said I was sorry."
He told me on Friday that he thinks I have my mind made up that he can't change, and that he will only control his nastiness for a while. That we will be right back where we are now if he has a bad day, and accidentally makes a sarcastic remark. I told him that I only have past experiences to go on. We have been down this road many times. He gets angry and spouts out hurtful things, I get upset for a couple days, he apologizes, I get over it. Then we are careful around each other for a couple of weeks. Then the cycle begins again.
Difference now is that I found SR, started concentrating on my own health and happiness, and decided that I don't deserve to be treated as his "second-in-command". Marriages and parenting are supposed to be a partnership.
Wow, it feels good to write this out. Thanks, everyone.