When I first made the decision to separate from my ABF I cried constantly, and sometimes it felt like it would never end. It did end, and even though I still have bouts of sadness for the loss of the dream and even find myself feeling sorry for him, it is much less intense. When I was little and had a nightmare, my mom would calm me down by telling me that my dreams were like TV channels and if I just changed the channel the nightmare would go away (I always put it on the Christmas channel. lol!). Not saying to ignore the feelings completely, it's good to feel them, just saying you don't need to dwell on it...you can change the channel sometimes! Nowadays the beach channel works for me. :-)