My heart breaks for you Anon12 ~
I told my now exah that I was leaving 2 wks before my rental house would be ready ~ we even had a grandchild's bday party at our house during those few weeks - it was very painful & strained.
To be honest, I truly don't believe my ex thought I would leave ~ I believe (and he had good reason, I had threatened to leave before & never did) he thought I would change my mind ~
I grew a lot in my recovery skills ~ I didn't have anywhere else I felt comfortable going those 2 weeks - i toughed it out, I knew if I left my ex would possibly steal/hock everything we had - when I left I had to take everything I wanted with me ~
So if you feel like you have to stay ~ try to "beef up" your recovery, meetings, reading literature, contact with sponsor & recovery friends, lots of self-care ~ it's not easy but you can do it ~
If you do have the option to stay elsewhere & you are certain your things will be ok ~ then it might be a saner option to go ahead for your own sanity.
Wishing you the best ~
PINK HUGS,
Rita