Ok...when we leave ourselves total dependent on someone for our emotional fixes, cash, future, etc... We set ourselves up for disappointment. People can only do the best they can at the time with the knowledge they have.....we could trust a non addict and be married to them for ten years happily and the something happens.
We need to trust ourselves...I bet it's scary. I depended on my XAB for happiness, a great future, a filling of my large love hole....it didn't work I tried for 2.5 years.
You can work..in fact it sounds sucky but it can actually be stimulating, fun, interesting, new friends, learn new things, oh and that fun green stuff :-)