My bad Itchy - I knew that - meant to say this side of SR. ; ) Sometimes my brain is moving way faster than my fingers as they are typing.
I have to agree with you on the abuse point. I have been witness to it happen...my Mom has a pretty violent manic episode, attacked my Dad, then called the police on him claiming abuse. They, of course, hauled him away, even though he had a gash on his head.
However, recently one of our regular posters had the same situation happen in reverse, only with her AH, and she was arrested. Go figure.