(((Bill)) - I don't know that what happened to me has any effect on what your wife is going through. I was neither the spouse or a parent, but when I was a nurse? It was what I lived, breathed and slep.
It took me going deep into addiction, finding SR and finding out I was okay, just as I am. I didn't need the RN after my name.
It sounds as if she has lots how she is, other than mom, spouse, nurse and I do get that. SR was enough for me, but maybe you're wife needs more than that? When I was still nurse, I was eligible for EAP and that helped a lot. Just something to think about.
Hugs and prayers,
Amy