Willybluedog

As an ACA I struggle as a husband and father, I work my butt off to do the right things, maintain my temper, not let my ACA issues flow onto my family, but I am having an issue in my marraige that I need some advice on.

My wife, the mother of my two children is a wonderful woman, she is the main breadwinner due to my disability, she works long days as a nurse in a highly stressful job, I stay home, do the cooking, cleaning, carpool etc.

The problem, my wife has lost her sense of self. She is a mother, a wife, a nurse, she has lost the I am ______ a real person separate from all my other duties.

This is affecting me greatly, I don't know how to help her, it makes me sad to see the woman that I love struggle with her identity.

Can anyone suggest books on this subject, is this a common problem, as a man I still see myself first and foremost as me, yes I am a dad, and a husband, and housekeeper, and carpool person, but I am still Bill.

Any insights would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks all,

Bill