Hello lavern,
What happens after you pick up your grandson?
When you say "we" are at wits end about what to do, who is the "we"?
Do you really care what she says about you on Facebook?
Can't you just block her?
Should your grandson be a constant witness to this foolishness?
She won't get help unless she hits bottom, after reading your other posts, it seems everyone walks on eggshells around this abusive, irresponsible drunk.
If you are still hurting so bad, I do not think you are doing the right thing for you,
and definitely not for your grandchild.
Beth