Try reading page 417 in the 4th edition (449 in the 3rd edition), or read that entire story by the doctor Acceptance Was the Key, although it was called Doctor, Alcoholic, Addict in the 3rd edition and pages 66-67 also help. Dr. Paul O. wrote that story and he has some talks on xa-speakers.org --look for Paul O. under single speakers in AA. He's quite funny, too.
What step are you working on?
Tolerance, acceptance and love for all,