Originally Posted by
laurie6781 
First of all, I have learned that 'forgiving' another person is NOT for that person but for myself.
Same here. I've learned to approach it from two different angles, depending on the situation. Sometimes they overlap:
a) Forgiveness is me letting go of the right to seek revenge.
b) Forgiveness is me letting go of the past that can't be changed.
Acceptance, not condoning, is the foundation for both of them.