Bill, have you considered writing a note and giving it to the secretary of your meeting basically saying that you don't feel comfortable hanging out with people after meetings and don't know how to go about getting a sponsor? I'm sure help is there if you can find a way to ask for it. I was lucky that i had some rather, uh, forward people to help me get a sponsor. Namely a gent who sat across from me during a first step meeting and interrupted the meeting with "hey! You! Do you have a sponsor yet?" "Uh...no sir?" "Well meet Jeci. She's good people. Continue!" All this barked in military fashion. However you get a sponsor, get one. They're your guide and they help!