He is 32, but in his mind I think he is 16. Except when it comes to work, then apparently he is a responsible adult. He owes that to his uncle kicking him out of his company for drug use 10 years ago. He was the one person who stood up to him and stopped enabling him and that lesson (when it comes to a job anyway) stuck. Never late, usually early, stays late, works all the overtime he can get, has never once called in sick in all the years I have known him and tries his best to prove he is an asset to any company he works for...you would think he could apply that to the rest of his life! lol. You guys are right as always, I hope I find some real self esteem soon. I left, I stand up to him now, and I no longer enable him...I had to have some kind of self esteem to do that much, now I have to get a butt load more and dig myself out the rest of the way.