Originally Posted by
Impurrfect 
Everyone that cared about me told me "you deserve more than the crumbs left on the table...you deserve the entire MEAL"
It took me a couple of decades to realize I really DO deserve the "full entree" and not just the crumbs.
Wow.. I recall so vividly when AH (before he was AH, he was then just ABF) just hung me out to dry on one occasion and I was just completely despondent lying on my bed for the whole day, 22 years old, and my mother came up to ask me if she could do anything for me, and I just said... no... and she was so frustrated and said, "Christ, you are settling for crumbs when you deserve the whole cake" and then she walked out. But I never forgot that.
Thanks for reminding me of that imagery...