Also--I don't know, just mulling over your question--I can be pretty bossy. I try really hard to keep it in check but sometimes a friend or sibling will say something like, "Okay akrasia's got the bossy pants on," and I have to reel it in.
The way it happens in my head is I find myself thinking, "I'm not bossy, I'm HELPFUL! I'm just RECOMMENDING a course of action to someone because they might not have thought about it! I'm trying to make sure things turn out right for them! I WANT EVERYONE TO BE HAPPY."
Which really is a way of trying to control people, isn't it? No matter how much my mind tries to sugar-coat it.
So I don't know if that's too much of a non-sequitur but just giving you a glimpse into the Mind of Controlling Person.