JessicaNAJ-
I really can't give you any advice. I'm still on the "I can't let go" marrygoround myself and my AH left me for another woman. We have been together 25 years and I love him very much and ache because he is not here. The only thing I can tell you is that with the passage of time I do have a few days where I don't hurt as much but the thoughts of him are always there. I can tell you that we are here to listen to you and support you.
I wish for you a blessed day.
Hugs
Kat