Boundries.
Its so nice to have them!!
My "lover" who also has struggled with alcoholism has respected my boundries. I recently told him I can have contact with him again if he is not drunk during our contact. I dont want him to call me drunk, or be around me drunk. And so far he hasnt. I like him as a friend...minus the alcohol. I get the good things about him and dont have to deal with the drama.....yus! He is the most encouraging person I know and I love that. He has been trying to get his stuff together, gotten back into church, etc. His sobriety is entirely up to him though, I understand that.
Other than that I dont talk to him much or spend much time with him. I spend a lot of time on school and work. Not too mention working my own sobriety! 20 days today! Thats a lot of days lol.