Originally Posted by
BlueMoon 
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There is NOTHING, ABSOLUTELY NOTHING that ANYone could have said or done to get me to stop drinking BEFORE I was ready. I lost my home, my job and custody of my son - I continued to drink. When I was ready, I sought help.
This man KNOWS you/his family cares. That is ALL YOU CAN DO. YOU cannot fix him. YOU cannot save him. I'd have been thrilled if my family had given me 1/2 as much attention as what you're giving him. But I would not have stopped drinking because of it.
The ONLY person you can change is YOU. Period. Exclamation point. THAT is how you can best help him.
Blue
Blue is basically right. Until he is ready there will be no change. You can express support once they are in recovery, but until they decide they need some help and can seek it out, they are alone.
And AA is local and free, a rehab unless there are pressing medical reasons will not help.