Hi there! What a great question.
For me, how I was physically and felt emotionally and how I thought mentally were intertwined. I couldn't change how I think and felt until I changed how I was physically.
I couldn't deal with my AV's lies and arguments, but I could deal with not putting booze in my mouth.
A key in early recovery for me was physically making sure I got to bed sober. It didn't matter how I felt emotionally or what I was thinking mentally. I just needed to get to bed physically sober.
One Night at a Time. lol
Specific coping behaviors: lots of sweaty physical exercise, lots of scheduled non-drinking time with people after work, drinking lots and lots of fizzy water and eating ice cream.
Waking up sober meant starting the day without a hangover and crushing dread and despair. That was the start of another successful sober day.