Here's my story......my XABF had red flags....I went online, found he was married, not divorced, found he had 3 felony domestic violences, not felony for being in "wrong place at wrong time" like he said, didn't graduate like he said, had 5 dui's not 2 like he said.
Yet I stayed with him. I will say in the 3 years he never once even said a mean word to me, let alone got voilent. And I don't think he ever would, cause believe me, I deserved to be hit on more then one occasion.
Point is, the truth is out there, if she wants to find it she will, and it may not make a difference. This is her journey. She has to see it through, and she will, regardless of what you or anyone else says.