Pink, that was my point exactly. An addict will always find a way to get what they want. Let's say you go to the Dr. with AH and tell him what an alcoholic he is. Doc says ok, we will do this, this, and this. AH simply goes to another doc on the side, (without your knowledge), gets whatever pills he needs, and continues the game playing with Dr. #1. That doc will have no idea that AH is taking meds from another source, and possibly more than one other source.
Legally, a person's medical information is private, and unless the Dr. has been given permission from the patient to share that info, he can't ask a spouse about the patient or give them any info.
It is correct that a Dr. can only work with the info he is given, and if he is lied to then he will give the wrong treatment. A good Dr. will order a complete blood work up before prescribing drugs or therapies, and elevated liver enzymes, high BA count, vitamin deficiencies and such will clue him in that the patient is an alcoholic. Simply because AH goes to the Dr. with you means nothing-he will play along with you to keep you happy, and go to other clinics or doctors behind your back. It is a vicious loop, one that you have no control over. If a person is serious about going into recovery he will take the proper steps and follow them. Anything else is a ruse to hide behind while he figures out a new way to hide his drinking from you. I have said it before and will say it again---you cannot fix someone who doesn't think they are broken. YOUR response to the alcoholic is the only control you have, so focus on how you plan to respond if AH refuses to quit drinking, your future depends on it.