I'm sorry you are dealing with this. You have gotten some excellent advice but I just wanted to say that I'm sending you lots of support and prayers for today! Stepsforward gave good advice. Today probably won't be a good day to talk about anything, you may have to wait until you sense that he is sober and willing to at least listen to you. And, yes, you are strong enough! Alcoholics pick strong partners, it's because we are strong that we are involved with addicts. They need us and we fall into their traps. Please find an Al Anon meeting near you, they will support you and love you and you will soon feel peace.