Thanks for this thread. I really needed to hear it today! My AH also doesn't realize the hundreds of chances he's already been given - and says I'm the mean one for pointing out, "You have given me exactly zero evidence to support the idea that this time you will be different from all the other times."
I need to hold this in my mind as I go forward. No more falling prey to emotional ******!!! I signed a lease on an apartment and get to move in next month.