My feelings on giving 'chances' have changed so much after living with an alcoholic. I used to be a very forgiving person and was able to give second chances and even a third or forth. I gave my XAH thousands of chances and it was all in hopes that maybe 'one day' he would open his eyes. I should have never let it go that far...but I got pulled in and became co-dependent and along with that came all the crazy things that happen by being addicted to an alcoholic.
Part of me feels like in time (probably years) that I may be able to get back to a point where I can forgive again and possibly give a 'second' chance' to someone even if it's a biggy but I will never again keep handing out chances like they are candy. That is one of my boundaries. If you make a mistake and you are truly sorry for it--it won't happen again.