Giving "Chances"
Just an observation, but the older I get the less value I see in giving someone 'chances'.
The best, most valuable people in my life never did anything so horrible to me that they ever needed a 'second chance'.
And no one I ever gave a third chance to was ever worth it. They always required 4th and 5th and 6th chances and they always just disappointed and caused pain. Just failure and excuses and me cleaning up the mess and getting hurt. Nothing good ever came out of someone who needed a 3rd chance in my experience.
I've had mixed results on people whom I gave a second chance to.
I'm not talking about, "Oops, I forgot your birthday" or "Sorry, I told your secret about your nose job" or "Oops, I backed into your car".
I'm talking about big betrayals, "Oops, I slept with your husband" or "Oops, I stole your car and smashed it up and just walked away and went home" or "Oops, you made me hit you" or "Oops, I lied and stole so much I pushed you into bankruptcy".
Anyone else have any ideas on this concept of 'chances'?