Thanks beeswax. There is some good info on the stickies about explaining addiction as a sickness. I think the most important thing is honesty, but obviously you would have to simplify for younger children. We pray for my AH a lot. That is what I tell them to do when they are feeling bad, and it does help. I may just supervise the visits myself...just need to make sure I don't fall back into the codependency trap that I am still trying to climb out of.