Originally Posted by
Thumper 
Since he is an ex now I wouldn't spend any time trying to figure it out. It is taking up space in your head.
I said the Serenity Prayer to myself countless times each day and it really did help.
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
i so agree with this THUMPER that is is an ex and STOP TRYING TO FIGURE IT OUT....because in time, and alot of patience the answers will come...for me, many many years later(driving in the car, and it hits you, and the aaha moment is right there in your face....one happened to me a few weeks ago)
stop trying to figure everything out...just worry about you and your recovery...i do hope you are going to al anon regardless of this break up...you will need it...
ps...no contact is a good place to be also