Originally Posted by
just2dizzy 
I have suggested that we go to the same places to go to meetings, I'll go to Ala-Anon and he goes to AA he doesn't like that.
HE has his recovery and when you go to AL ANON you will have yours...they are two separate meetings but CAN work together...but i see how reserve your hubby is...if i am reading this correct, he does not want you to go AL ANON? is that correct?...if it is...do you understand why? its because AL ANON shows us how to stop enabling and getting a back bone to not be that DOOR MAT anymore...
you are on the right track...read Melody Beatties book(s) and i agree, dont make to much of a hasty decision right now...one step at a time, but i would start with the financial part of "separating" them...open your own...