Hi Just,
AlAnon is for you, not to support his recovery, but to support people affected by another person's drinking.
Put a tight hold on the finances now.
If he is going to recover without you, he can recover without any excessive financial burden.
No-one knows how this turns out.
He may get sober and be wonderful (later),
He may get sober and leave,
He may get sucked back in to addiction.
Whatever happens, you must take care of you.
Don't be a doormat.
And, don't be resentful. It serves no purpose.
Go to Al-Anon, get a counsellor. For you!!!
You are important and deserve to be happy. This should not depend on him.
Good for you coming here. Friends and family forum are a strong bunch.
ps, I am not sure why you are even conversing with his sponsor.
He should not be in your life at all. Very inappropriate for him to be telling you your business.
