I think addicted to your A describes your behaviors before you start recovery. I know that for my focus was on my AW, I had no time to take care of myself or do things I enjoyed doing or even thought of myself as an individual. Everything was Mike and L or us or we. I almost never used I as part of my internal conversations. I actually thought in terms of what should we do tonight or what would she like to do this weekend. I as fading away, I had no independent existence and my needs were unimportant even to me.
Now that has changed completely. But I do think that is what people mean by being addicted to their A.
Your friend,