Originally Posted by
ODAT63 
That is a horrible thing to say to your child, but I have learned that what the A says to someone is the reflection of what they think of themselves.
If only someone had told me this when I was 19, it would have spared me so much heartache and pain. I forgave my dad last year working through a book on forgiveness and when he died in December I had so much peace. My sister, on the other hand, is struggling with guilt and anger over my dad's death as she has not worked through all her feelings about how our dad treated us.
I am so dang glad I found Al Anon. It has saved my sorry rear so many times, LOL!