Thanks Windmills, Kindeyes and all...
AH showed up at the apt. about an hour ago and rang the intercom. It went to my voicemail on my cell and his message was that he wanted his golf clubs (worth $1200) and his other stuff (what other stuff??) and that I didn't even have to talk to him... just bring 'them' down... yeah, at 10:30 in the eve... you want to go golfing or something? (not).
... As soon as I saw the call, I ran to the window and looked to see him walk across the street and sit down on the curb between two vehicles and just STARE at the apt building. It freaked me out. He was only wearing a t-shirt, jogging pants and runners.
I immediately called 911. It seemed like FOREVER until they got here. I felt sick to my stomach. A police cruiser came silently from one end of the street and as soon as the two police officers approached him, he got up and put his hands behind his back in the arrest position.
They calmly took him to their vehicle where they sat him on the grass to chat with him taking items from his pockets as they were doing so and putting them on the hood of their car. I thought I saw a knife, but I think I was imagining it because I was upset and not thinking clearly.
I just broke down at that point. I was looking down seeing my AH with his head bowed as the police (they seemed to be very kind and gentle with him) chatting etc., and wondering what kind of nightmare I was in...
About 10 min later, one of the officers came up and spoke with me and asked me for details about what was transpiring. I told them everything I wrote here on this post for you all. The officer found it 'strange' how my AH just gave himself up immediately... like he was expecting the police to show up.
The officer then asked me what I wanted to see happen and I said that I have repeatedly told my AH that he is not welcome here and tho' I don't feel physically threatened, it has been emotionally tolling for my health (and sanity) and that I really feel it pertinent to place a restraining order against him for that.
The officer wrote everything down and then indicated that my AH had a warrant out from the hospital he was at and they were returning him (in an ambulance). He then gave me a "victim unit" number to seek guidance and help to deal with this latest situation and said that they would do all they could to make sure he got the help he needed because it was obvious he was not well.
He didn't let it out, but I could see from his expression when I said that my AH's attitude is escalating to the point where he may do something to himself as a very last resort of making me feel bad (for life?)... I can just see him doing that... and it's very upsetting and sad because although I'd feel upset for a bit, it would not affect my life in the long run. Well, I hope it wouldn't.
Anyway, in total 2 police cars and an ambulance attended and it just seemed so surreal... like I was watching someone elses life... someone elses 'problem person'
I feel shell shocked right now. Like I'm just waiting for this all to happen all over again... him coming here to emotionally harass me into giving him what he wants, however he now knows my arsenal is to not even talk to him but rather to call the police. I wonder tho' if that will stop him?
I am praying he gets the help he needs (although I am very doubtful it's going to happen, unless there's a miracle), but I also hope he's finally gotten it in his head that he can no longer manipulate and draw me out to feel sorry/pity and give him what he wants and moves on...
Going to bed... just so freaking exhausted.