Originally Posted by
wanttobehealthy 
I spent YEARS trying to explain why honesty was important and a non negotiable to AH. Years. It was the root of pretty much every fight we had.
He rationalized being dishonest SO well that even I started to believe that my "black and white" thinking about honesty was unhealthy. He convinced me that honesty was negotiable and there were gray areas and I actually gave him CREDIT for lying "less". Insanity.
This was my life with STBXAH as well... exactly. For me personally, I know I could never trust him again, no matter what he did... ever. (which is why I left)