Laurie...
I get caught up because in the alanon meetings I've attended 95% of the people in there are still married, in contact with or living with their qualifier.
These are people who have been in alanon for many years.
When I come to SR many of the posts are very clear about letting them go, how recovery from addiction takes years, leave now etc... Starts to make me question am I suppose to stay in the relationship and work out my own stuff??
Learn how to detach with love and stay with my RXAB? Very confusing.
For me to stay with him and accept his toxic behavior while in recovery is just too painful. I would be denying my self happiness. I get ths feeling from these alanon meetings that I'm suppose to work my recovery in the relationship especially if he's in recovery.
As you know he is but my RXAB is NO DIFFERENT than when he was drinking aside from blacking out and slurring.