Sometimes we detach in whatever way we can. I detached from my XAH with anger. At the time my anger was my only defense mechanism and it was effective. It got me out of a bad situation. The danger is in letting that anger (and resentment) continue long after the divorce is final. I let my resentment linger on far too long. It was unhealthy for me. Releasing the anger and resentment eventually was a huge relief and weight off my back.
I'm sorry that you are having to deal with this. I remember all of the crazy conversations, illogical demands, and roadblocks thrown in my way as I tried to get the divorce finalized. It was crazy making stuff.
One day at a time.....
gentle hugs
ke