wantstobe, it's very clear that you have tried the legal way. It just isn't working like it should. It's also obvious that this situation is not the typical alcoholic and/or divorce type situation. I think the fact that you live in a small community & your ex-husband is a town "big shot" that it's making this more difficult. I don't think that moving is always the best thing to do but in this case what else is there?