question.......
My XABF who is moving out tomorrow, is telling me that I played the "kick me out card" too much. I mean he is right, I attempted ultimatums, and failed miserably, because I loved him and thought he would change (like he would for a few months, until he got bored). Now I think he is trying to make me feel guilty that I am following though with him moving. I was planning on moving myself, was looking for apartments, but then after I found incriminating texts on his phone (which he denies that they mean anything, it is just a "really good friend"), and constant drinking and going to the bar, I changed my mind and told him that he needed to go.
Was I wrong to kick him out, since I am the one ultimately ending the relationship (although that is only due to years of unhappiness and his drinking)? Should I have moved? A mutual friend said that I am going to be seen as the bad guy, I should have moved.....