WTBH,
I'm going through a similar situation... My STBXAH doesn't really want the responsibility of parenting but he doesn't want to be seen as a deadbeat dad. He has tried to cause all sorts of havoc... But it hasn't worked because I chose not to react. I keep my focus on taking care of the kids.
I LOVE that you talked to the school. I did the same thing and it was the best thing I could have done for the kiddos. They are both now seeing a school therapist and that's been a godsend. They don't even know she's a therapist... They just call her the Happy Lady!
You are doing great. Keep the focus on doing what's best for you and the kids... And life will continue to blossom
