(((kcola))) - I was as addicted to my XABF's as I eventually became to crack. I read a LOT through the friends & families forums, and though I still have loved ones who are active in their addiction, I am better able to detach from them and their actions. I spent decades being wrapped up in someone else, lost my way, and I don't want to do that any more.
My love didn't make them clean/sober, my love didn't keep the one alive. I can still love...I just do it from a distance when addiction is involved.
Hugs and prayers,
Amy