I dont think you seem to realize that the AL ANON program is about US and our recovery...no one elses....
the thread started with this:
"BF Dad is causing us StReSS; should BF do more Drug Testing just to pacify him"
nothing there about you...it was started off "as the father and the BF"
i mentioned why back to the beginning of the post that this sounded alot like: choatic, disfunction and co dependent issues
FOR THE PROGRAM SAKE:
we need to stick to the program....
step #1 says it all.....