DBH
You had me pegged exactly.... I came to SR when my BF was in hospital after the OD; and I was a mess adn worried about HIM. Didnt know anything about drugs, addiction, or recovery... and I wanted to help HIM.
I have realized; and Im really grateful for understanding that I cant fix his drug addiction. If I chose I could run myself ragged trying to help him, and that woudl all just be a waste. He has to make the choice. He has to do the work. He has to figure out what he needs to keep from going back to the cocaine.
So my life feels like it has gone back to my normal. my work, my school, my cat, my excercise. my tv shows, my friends, my relationship with my dad, etc. But still he is a big part of my world.
Likewise ... he has his work, his psych appointments, his friendships, his tv shows, his workouts, his wacky relationship with his dad... But still Im a big part of his world.