Originally Posted by TigerLili

I met my boyfriend just over a year ago. I was 2 years sober at the time and relapsed after a few months. I've come to the realisation that I can't stay in a relationship with an active alcoholic and told him that I needed some time apart to think things through.

We are meeting on Friday and I need to find the words to tell him that unless he goes back to recovery (he was sober 7 years then left AA and relapsed) there is no chance of a future for us. I'm not sure that there will be a future even if he does get sober. I need to focus on myself and my own recovery.
In my heart, I don't think he will get sober again. I think he will drink himself to death and maybe even commit suicide eventually.

I need to find words that aren't blaming or shaming but are clear about how I am feeling and what I need from him.

Any ideas?