Originally Posted by TigerLili

I met my boyfriend just over a year ago. I was 2 years sober at the time and relapsed after a few months. I've come to the realisation that I can't stay in a relationship with an active alcoholic and told him that I needed some time apart to think things through.

This ^ is a boundary.

We are meeting on Friday and I need to find the words to tell him that unless he goes back to recovery (he was sober 7 years then left AA and relapsed) there is no chance of a future for us.

This is an attempt to control him.

I need to find words that aren't blaming or shaming but are clear about how I am feeling and what I need from him.

Any ideas?