Of course he made all the arrangements and paid for it all etc. etc. I'm sure he'll give you the weeks pay to get of work. He wants you to go and he'll do whatever he can to make his will happen. You get down to California and there will be a house waiting there for you to move into. The very house your boyfriend says he does not want, in the state he does not want to be in.......but that is a minor detail. His voice is nothing more than an annoying insect buzz in his dad's ear, to be swatted and killed.
Of course your boyfriend is pissed. His dad is arranging for a couples retreat with a girlfriend (not a wife) to a place he does not like, in a state he does not like, without so much as running it past him. That would tick anyone off. Normal parents would never over step a line like that and normal adult children would not tolerate that.
Boyfriend ran away from his dad. You brought his dad back into his life. His dad has now brought you over to his side. You and him (the dad) are like a team now?! You say your boyfriend is being illogical. Are you listening to your boyfriends voice or just swatting that buzzing sound?
How exactly is this crack addict supposed to recover without a voice, without any space at all to get right with himself? He needs to stand still a minute but the rest of you keep spinning his world around like a top. If I had a crystal ball your boyfriend will either crash and burn very soon, or do another disappearing act. No man will be able to live under these conditions forever.