I 100% agree with Dollydo, Justrae.
I know you are in horrible emotional pain but as I read your posts from the first thread, you are back and forth and all over the map.
While it's nice to read hugs and kisses and posts of support, I don't think time is what is going to get you through this. I think you have some deep core issues than span way way back that you need to resolve with a professional. Dating isn't the answer either.
Please focus on yourself, concentrate on work with a therapist. There is no quick fix. This is about you.