I've seen people at a later stage of life than 60 get sober, from being in a very severe situation. I guess they reached the point where they got the realization, enough was enough. You know first hand how the end stage of this is, as you say it's not pretty. I'm sorry you've had your pain and struggles, I had many in my early life but had a lot of therapy work to make peace with it the best that I could, and to live more fully in the present. You would know that you're the one that has to do it, but you're not alone in this and there are people out there who do care and are willing to help.